Prince Charmings don’t exist. This is what parents fail to explain to little girls when telling them bedtime stories of far away kingdoms. These stories have done more harm than good to little girls growing up believing that one day a man will rescue them from whatever hardships they are facing. Sadly, they think that if they are good enough, well behaved enough, pretty enough, smart enough, thin enough, they will be wanted and loved and become a princess. People, we should teach our daughters, sisters, nieces, etc, that they are their own savior. That only they can rescue themselves from the wicked witch/stepmother/wizard/curse/dragon. These little girls should feel loved no matter what. Fat, short, pimply faced, unruly haired, dark, slow in math, flat-chested, uncoordinated. Their self-esteem, self-image and security depends on our affirmation: that they are validated human beings and any man would be lucky to be with them. So many little girls grow up to become women who rely on a man for their happiness, for a man to complete them. They do everything to please men and sometimes even resort to devious tricks to “hook” a man. Do these men even know of the daily and not so daily tortures women have to go through in order to be considered desirable? We tweeze, tease, shave, bleach, wax, douche, get scrubbed raw at spas, sweat it out in the gym, blow most of our cash buying a new dress, shoes, a bag to match, highlights, lowlights, signature haircuts, acrylic nails, eyelash extensions, permed lashes, liposuction, flower arrangements, laserlight, foot spas, mesotherapy, sclerotherapy, microdermabration, facials, pimple injections, rhinoplasty, breast augmentation, tummy tucks, botox, facelifts, chemical peels and I can go on and on and on (and I haven’t even mentioned the cosmetics women buy). Women do all these in the hopes of landing a man or holding on to their man. They don’t realize that even with all the modern technology in the beauty industry, there is no guarantee that they won’t be traded in for a newer model. Why? Because new is always better than overhauled. How many times do we have to kick ourselves in the head when we find out that yet again, we have been used, cheated on and taken advantage of? When did we get so desperate to be with a mate? When did we start losing ourselves in the fairy tale? When will we understand that having a man in our lives is not as important as loving and being content with ourselves? When will we realize that true happiness comes from within, from family and friends and most importantly from Our Father who loves His little princesses. Green skin, warts and all….
